Yes, my oldest daughter texts, posts, and video talks. Yes, she is acutely aware of when it is “time” to renew the wardrobe with a couple of new pieces from the latest fashion trends. Yes, your lady often rolls her eyes at my “weird” behaviors. And yes, friends are at the superior of her sharing list these days.
I was truly impressed by her expression from deep wisdom that has utilized many of us divorces, health diseases, and endless searches through different veins of the outdoor world to figure out. What my own dear girl was indicating through the example of summertime camp–one of any likely outer examples–probably resonates with most of us when looked at meticulously.
Which includes a palpable gratitude for all of the opportunities and lessons learned from her previous camp experiences, she began to promote her deeper thoughts on this subject and beyond. This lady shared that while camp is touted as a place to be fully and legitimately yourself, create a sisterhood, extend a connection to nature, and explore your core because of contemplation and solitude, the actual of it all is to come to understand that inner interconnection is available anywhere, anytime, and most importantly in the NOW.
She assured me that she hasn’t been “knocking” camp in any way and may also choose to return, but any time she does go back for another year or three, it would not be since camp experience allows the woman’s to feel more unique in any way. Her return would be based on the conscious, main (soul) choice to attend simply because she enJOYs the experience in no way because it is a “safe” method to be herself fully on the globe.
Yes, my son has her challenges, the woman’s snarky attitudes, her minutes of self-doubt. Yes, she can sometimes be mean to the girl’s siblings, sassy to the girl’s parents, generally ornery. Even though, underneath it all are ever-expanding and deep cracks of self-awareness, self-love and true empathy for others that will serve don’t just her, but the world in particular, quite well.
While some parents desire status, monetary reward and upward societal movement because of their children–none of which are negative per say–beyond those exterior pursuits, my deepest heart’s desire for mine can be voiced most succinctly through Shakespeare, “To thine own personal be true. ” EnLIGHTenment at its best.
Certainly not what I experienced several years back (alright twenty-six years back to be exact) with the tender age of 14. Recently my daughter and I were discussing irrespective of whether she would attend, once again, some three week all girls’ camp for the 5th summer in a row.
We do not need to go anywhere special or do something unusual to live our own truth. Basically, freedom to be comfortable in the own skin should not be saved for places that we take a look at three weeks a year. Self-Love can be cultivated in all ways, always.
She went on to give the case of seeing quite definitely that she doesn’t will need to go anywhere specific (camp), do anything special (canoe) or be anything several (a camper) to come to feel authentic, open, connected and free. While she surely views camp as a benefit, she knows that the lady with enough just as she is with or without camp to make sure you remind her of that inside knowing.
Indeed, a typical adolescent in so many ways, EXCEPT for underneath the North Face overcoat and the Ugg boots, at the rear of the gaggle of giddy girlfriends and the fluorescent video display, and even beyond our passionate family discussions and shared dinners, there lies a self-awareness and interior growing that seems unfathomable for any child her age.
While we encouraged all of our kids to try overnight camp at least once, we have told her that the decision to return is now totally up to her. As that discussion ensued, I became almost mesmerized by her capacity to articulate her vantage point on the subject.
She even voiced that the songs about sisterhood, respect, and caring, various with a “free to be you” theme, seemed a bit random to her now, articulating that while appreciative for the sentiment, she hoped which usually her fellow campers seemed free to be themselves over and above the activities in nature, communal cabins, and family eating out. In short, everywhere.